So far this month I’ve been all about setting intentions and backing away from the blog and social media because I’ve needed a bit of downtime. In years past, the holidays have always been hard for me since we don’t have children or family around to celebrate with. If we allow it the holidays can be depressing and unfortunately, we usually allow it. Not on purpose, of course, but it seeps in around the edges and before we know it we’re drowning in feelings of loneliness and depression. This year, we’re being proactive and setting intentions so we can have our best holidays yet.
This year I told Brandon that I can’t handle spending the holidays feeling overwhelmed with sadness about children or family dynamics. I need to be selfish this year and we need to invest our time into building memories for us and doing the things that we need to do so that we’re able to look back on the holidays with joyful thoughts. Right now, my happiest holiday memories come from 2010 which was the first holiday season Brandon and I spent together.
That year we toured a Christmas display at the botanical gardens, watched multiple holiday parades, played in the snow with our dogs, went to holiday movie festivals, and really embraced the magic of the season together. This year, we discussed setting intentions and making sure that we do the same this year to capture that magic again and embrace being together during this joyful season. For the first time in a long time planning the holidays has given me happy fluttery-butterfly feelings again.
Here are just a few things on my holiday planning to-do list:
- Thanksgiving with friends in Colorado
- Brewery Lights
- Holiday Light Walks
- Ice Skating
- Village Festivals
- Botanical Garden Displays
- Historic Mansion Holiday Tours
And we’re making very special plans for spending Christmas together.
When it comes to setting intentions, especially faith-based intentions, I learned that it breaks down into 5 powerful steps.
Take advantage of tiny moments to consider solutions
Most of the time we are trapped in thoughts, emotions, obligations, memories, and pressure but somewhere in there are tiny moments. We need to harness those tiny moments and use them to consider solutions to the problems or stresses we’re feeling.
Clearly state your desires
Once we’ve considered the solutions to our problems and determined our preferred solution, clearly state your desire and let it go. At this point, we need to stop thinking and talking about it. The decision is made.
Once we’ve gone about setting intentions, remain committed to them. Stay in control and refuse to be influenced by the doubts or criticisms of others. Only we know our true needs and desires, that everything is ok and will continue to be ok.
Let go and trust yourself
We need to then let go and accept the pending outcome of our commitment. Allow ourselves to believe that everything is going to work out as it should then simply let go and allow things to happen.
Trust God to Handle the Details
Now, we only have to trust God to fulfill His plan for us as He promises us in His word. Don’t listen to your own internal voice that tries to fill you with anxiety and fear, instead trust that the outcome you desire may not be as good for you as the one that comes from God.
I feel like I’m in a good place right now and for the first time in a long time I’m excited for the holidays ahead. The start of November has been good for me in a lot of ways and as I sit here typing this out I’m overflowing with all kinds of good feelings and happiness.